and relationships advice?

Scarlet, personal relationships are always a work in progress, and take effort on BOTH parts to overcome miscommunications. Most times it simply is a misfiring, misconceptions, and lack of communication that lead to a buildup of fears that aren't actually based in reality. Sometimes there are real problems that need to be dealt with...like drug or alcohol abuse, physical abuse or whatever, that are REAL dangers and need outside help. In those cases I wouldn't hesitate to get nearby professional help. In matters of physical relationships, open and honest non judgmental communication between the parties IS the best source of and healing these issues.